TherapyDave
Gottman Certified Therapist in Eugene, Oregon
In 1944, the ClA wrote a handbook on how to sabotage an company’s productivity. This secret (now declassified) pamphlet was called “The Simple Sabotage Field Manual” and has several surprising similarities to how couples unsuccessfully communicate.
[Read more…] about How to Effectively Sabotage Your RelationshipResearch has revealed that a very powerful predictor of relationship stability is whether couples spend time getting to know each other or not. One way to do this is to ask open-ended questions. An open-ended question is a question that can’t be answered by a simple “yes” or “no.” It is a question such as, “How would you like our life to change in the next five years?”
Because we assume that other people think like we do, we are at risk of missing some critical warning signs. Sadly, these days it’s important not give others the benefit of the doubt unless they have earned it. You need be able to identify the “Red Flags” and “Yellow Flags” of those who lie, cheat, and steal, and worse, without regard for anyone else, as well as the “tactics,” behaviors, or strategies that others may use to “get to you,” hurt you and take what is yours.
The first step toward improving or enhancing your relationship is to understand what happens when relationships fail.
[Read more…] about Red Flags and Warning Signs in Modern RelationshipsConflict is inevitable, combat is optional.
The truth is that conflict happens in every relationship. It’s a myth that in a happy relationship you’ll get along all the time. What matters is how you talk about issues more than what you fight about.
[Read more…] about How to Remove Conflict From Your Relationship