When I start working with a new couple, I ask them to do a few things to prepare.
Assignment #1: Watch These Videos
Please watch the following short videos together before the first appointment. These will significantly help both of you to more accurately describe what is not working in your relationship and to help identify what saves a relationship versus destroys it. Each video is about 10 minutes long.
- Gottman Video #1 : What does research say about relationship satisfaction?
- Gottman Video #2: What guarantees a failed relationship?
- Gottman Video #3: What helps to improve a relationship the most?
- Gottman Video #4: Miscellaneous questions & answers
Assignment #2: Buy a Pulse Oximeter
If you and your partner tend to get “emotionally overloaded or upset” during your arguments, I strongly recommend you purchase an inexpensive pulse oximeter for use during our sessions: https://amzn.to/36Y5kgU
Assignment #3: Read This Article
Both of you should read what I consider to be one of the best descriptions of Gottman Method Couples Therapy. It will help you more accurately grasp what helps a relationship function versus what guarantees that it will implode into disaster.