Therapy Resources for Healthy Relationships

How Not to be Blocked When Doing an Intervention

Dave Lechnyr · April 5, 2022

A.K.A, “Handling Questions Designed to Put You On the Spot and Them Out of the Spot”.

Interventions are extremely uncomfortable to do. Your main job is to try to help them to see that they can no longer continue to live in “the denial of the present reality.” Chances are they will get upset and object – this is designed to put you on the defensive and to take the focus off of themselves. Remember, the person you are confronting has had years of practice in avoiding dealing with their problems. A few ideas might help you in this process.

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Trust Problems in Dysfunctional Families

Dave Lechnyr · March 29, 2022

Why do some adults have more struggles in life than others? Many times it relates to how dysfunction “entered” their childhood family. Such problems can arise from abuse, neglect, psychological abuse, immature parents, secrets in the family that impact others or an overwhelming sense of insecurity in the home environment. Understanding a few things might help in clarifying this tricky situation.

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How to Make Things Worse by Using Emotions to Solve our Problems

Dave Lechnyr · March 22, 2022

The reason that many people don’t solve problems is that they “personalize” everything that is said to them. They relate what is happening to some fear, some event, past memory, problem, or so forth, from the past that is “evoked” in the present by what another person says. As a result, discussions with people like this are never easy as they are always personalized based on fears and emotions, without any real future focus.

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How to want what you can’t have and keep getting what you don’t want

Dave Lechnyr · September 22, 2022

We tend to have expectations that others should meet our needs or treat us in a certain way. Yet we act surprised when they continually disappoint us. The reality is we need to start paying attention to other people’s patterns of behavior. Acknowledge that everyone has limitations.

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How to Make Sure That No One Can Ever Get Close to You

Dave Lechnyr · January 21, 2022

Why do some people verbally “attack” others in a relationship? When someone’s behavior changes like this to the irrational and bizarre, it is often not due to some unexplained physical or emotional cause. In fact, the real reason is more surprising than you’d think.

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