The first step in not being a victim in life is to really examine yourself and your behaviors so you can make a “to-do” list about what to keep and build on, what to eliminate and what to acquire in terms of life skills and strategies. Remember: You cannot change what you do not acknowledge.
Having an idea of what you essentially want to change is a good start. However, identifying the actual, concrete steps towards change will make all the difference in your life. It will also give you an “escape hatch” should things go askew.
Finally, setting realistic short-term behavior goals can help you achieve your long-term plans. To do this effectively, you must be aware of the critical difference between having dreams vs. having goals. Dreams are vague, non-specific and and often lead to frustration and setbacks; goals are something entirely different. These are called SMART plans.