Start with an initial session to slow things down, understand what’s happening, and decide what to do next.
Something in your relationship probably feels stuck right now. Maybe it’s the same argument repeating. Growing distance. Feeling misunderstood, or like things are starting to escalate and you’re not sure how to slow them down.
You don’t need to have the right words or the full picture yet. The first step is simply to identify the patterns and slow things down.
What to expect from the first session
This is a working session, not a passive intake. We will focus on:
- What is actually happening in your relationship, beneath the presenting conflict.
- The patterns that are keeping you stuck and why they keep recurring.
- What would help right now, and what the next steps should be.
This is not history-taking and it is not passive listening. We actively look at what is happening between you and how to change it. By the end of the session you will have a clearer picture of what is going on and whether continuing makes sense.
How this works
My approach is structured, evidence-based, and skill-focused. I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and one of a small number of Certified Gottman Therapists in Oregon and Arizona. I help couples move out of cycles of conflict, disconnection, and escalation and into more stable, workable patterns.
The work is collaborative and practical. Both of you will be supported. The goal is change, not blame.
This approach works best when both people are willing to look honestly at the patterns and practice new skills. If you are unsure whether your partner is ready, the first session can still help clarify next steps.