Couples Therapy for Relationships
Certified Gottman Therapist in Oregon and Arizona
David Lechnyr, LCSW
I provide structured, research-based couples therapy for partners across Oregon and Arizona. My practice is based in Eugene, and I work with clients throughout both states through secure online sessions. This approach is focused, measurable, and designed to create change that holds up outside session.
For nearly two decades, I’ve helped couples strengthen emotional connection, rebuild trust, and change the patterns that keep them stuck. I draw from the Gottman Method and evidence-based behavioral strategies so you not only learn what to do differently, but understand exactly why we’re doing it. We don’t just talk about your relationship. We change the behaviors and communication patterns driving it.
Learn More“I’ve had a lot of therapists over the last 17 years and I’ve never had a counselor bring me through this much progress…. ever. Not even close.”
Don’t Settle for Passive Therapy
You don’t need someone who keeps asking, “And how does that make you feel?” You want someone who challenges you to become your best self, gives you tools that work, and calls you on your B.S. when it gets in your way.
That is how growth happens. Not with more talking, but with clear direction and accountability.
My Approach to Couples Therapy
Most couples try traditional therapy. They talk things out, feel some relief in the session, then barely make it to the parking lot before the next argument erupts. Insight without structure doesn’t hold.
Others attend workshops or seminars. They learn useful ideas, but once they’re home, the strategies fall apart because real relationships never match a cookie-cutter example.
My approach combines both. You learn specific skills and frameworks that I curate for your relationship, then we meet one on one to apply those tools directly to your real conversations, patterns, and decisions. You get structure, accountability, and support while you practice in real life.
This integrated model is what’s missing in most couples work. It’s a different approach, and it’s the reason I’ve been able to help partners create change that actually lasts.
Services
Couples Therapy
For couples who want to reconnect, communicate better, and rebuild trust after distance or disconnection. Includes the Gottman Relationship Assessment and a clear roadmap to change.
Discernment Counseling
For couples who are unsure whether to stay together or separate. Discernment Counseling helps you slow down, get perspective, and make the right choice with integrity.
Individual Therapy
For individuals who want to stop repeating old patterns and build stronger emotional awareness. Learn how to understand your own wiring and improve every relationship you have.
Frequently Asked Questions
Do you see clients outside of Oregon and Arizona?
Yes. While most of my clients are based in Oregon and Arizona, I also work with clients across the U.S. and worldwide through online relationship coaching.
What’s the difference between therapy and coaching?
Therapy focuses on healing and understanding the past. Coaching focuses on taking action in the present to shape the future. Both are evidence-based, structured, and goal-driven, depending on your needs.
How long does therapy take?
Each couple or individual moves at a different pace. Most begin to see real change within the first few months. You’ll get a clear roadmap and structure so you know what to expect along the way.
How soon can we start?
New clients can usually begin within 2-4 weeks. Once you schedule your first appointment, I’ll send some initial forms to complete so we can make the most out of our time together.
What if my partner isn’t ready for therapy?
That’s common. You can start individually to learn skills and insights that often help your partner feel safer joining later.
Do you offer a free consultation?
No. I’ve found that a structured initial session is more valuable than a brief phone call. During our first session, we’ll get clear about your situation, identify what’s keeping you stuck, and determine if we’re a good fit.