Certified Gottman Therapist for Oregon, Arizona, and Worldwide
You’ve Been Here Before
You’ve been to couples therapy before. Maybe multiple therapists. You’ve spent thousands of dollars and months of your time, but you’re still stuck in the same patterns.
Each week, you paid $150-300 for a session, wondering “Is this working? Should we book another one?” You left feeling like you were renting a professional listener instead of getting the transformation you desperately needed.
When your package of sessions ended, nothing had fundamentally changed. The same distance. The same arguments. The same disconnection.
You’re starting to wonder if your relationship can actually be saved.
Why Session-by-Session Therapy Often Fails
Traditional therapists sell you time: 50 minutes of conversation. But that’s not what you really want. You want results. You want to feel connected again. You want to stop having the same arguments over and over. You want to rebuild trust or reignite intimacy.
Yet most therapy is structured around purchasing sessions with no clear path to your actual goals.
Let me share a story about a couple I worked with early in my career. Let’s call them Jake and Emma. They came to me after growing increasingly disconnected over several years. Back then, I operated like most therapists: Selling sessions individually or in packages of 5 or 10. They purchased 8 sessions because that’s what fit their budget.
At the end of those 8 sessions, they had gained some insights and learned a few communication techniques, but they hadn’t achieved the deeper connection they were seeking. Their fundamental patterns remained largely unchanged. When their package ended, they didn’t continue. A year later, Emma contacted me to say they were separating. The same distance and disconnection had persisted.
This experience transformed how I approach couples therapy. I realized I wasn’t truly serving couples by selling them my time in hourly increments. I needed to sell them what they actually wanted: Results.
Don’t Settle for Passive Therapy
You don’t need someone who keeps asking, “And how does that make you feel?” You want someone who challenges you to become your best self, gives you tools that work, and calls you on your B.S. when it gets in your way.
That is how growth happens. Not with more talking, but with clear direction and accountability.
“I’ve had a lot of therapists over the last 17 years and I’ve never had a counselor bring me through this much progress…. ever. Not even close.”
A Different Approach: Selling Results, Not Sessions
When couples come to me now, we start by clearly defining what success would look like for their unique relationship. Not vague goals like “better communication,” but specific outcomes like:
- “We want to be able to discuss finances without escalating into blame”
- “We want to rebuild the trust that was damaged by the affair”
- “We want to feel connected and intimate again”
Then, instead of asking “how many sessions would you like to purchase?” I assess what you’ll actually need to achieve those specific results. I create a comprehensive program designed to get you from where you are to where you want to be.
This completely changes the therapeutic relationship. Instead of purchasing my time, you’re investing in specific relationship outcomes.
How This Works in Practice
Traditional Model: “My sessions are $175 each. Would you like to book one session or a package of five?”
Results-Based Approach: “Based on your goals and my assessment, here’s what I believe you need to transform these patterns and rebuild your connection. This is a 4-month process that includes structured sessions, specific skill-building work, and tools to measure your progress toward the outcomes you’ve identified as important.”
Do you see the fundamental difference? One approach sells time; the other sells results.
Frequently Asked Questions
Are you accepting new clients?
Yes. I’m currently accepting new clients, ages 20 and older, for couples therapy and individual counseling.
Can I meet with you in person?
My practice operates primarily via secure telehealth, which allows me to serve clients throughout Oregon and Arizona. However, I do maintain a limited number of in-person appointment slots at my Eugene office (2440 Willamette Street, Suite 101-C) for clients who prefer face-to-face sessions after we’ve established a working relationship.
Do you see clients outside of Oregon and Arizona?
Yes. While most of my clients are based in Oregon and Arizona, I also work with clients across the U.S. and worldwide through online relationship coaching.
What’s the difference between therapy and coaching?
Therapy focuses on healing and understanding the past. Coaching focuses on taking action in the present to shape the future. Both are evidence-based, structured, and goal-driven, depending on your needs.
How soon can we start?
New clients can usually begin within 2-4 weeks. Once you schedule your first appointment, I’ll send some initial forms to complete so we can make the most out of our time together.
What if my partner isn’t ready for therapy?
That’s common. You can start individually to learn skills and insights that often help your partner feel safer joining later.
Do you offer a free consultation?
My experience has been that most people already have a strong sense of if they want to work with someone. I’ve also found that a structured initial session is more valuable than a brief consult. That’s why our first session is strategic: To get crystal clear about your situation, identify what patterns are keeping you stuck, and come up with an initial plan of action.
Do You Bill Insurance?
Couples therapy is self-pay only. For individual therapy, I am able to bill PacificSource Health Plans. For all other plans, I can provide documentation for insurance reimbursement for out-of-network reimbursement if needed.
Ready for Real Transformation?
I offer a comprehensive transformation approach, each one designed around your specific goals and situation. During our initial session, we’ll determine which approach is the best fit for where you are and where you want to go.
If you’re tired of temporary fixes and ready for lasting change, let’s talk about creating your transformation plan.