By the time a couple starts wondering whether the marriage is in real trouble, both partners are usually keeping a private tally. Two fights this week. Four last month. One of you counts them as … [Read more]
By the time a marriage is in real trouble, both partners usually have a private theory about why. One of you has quietly concluded that the two of you are just too different. The other … [Read more]
If your partner is upset at you and you react, you might be right. You’ve got every right to be upset. However, imagine you’ve got a child. They fall off their bicycle and they scream … [Read more]
Childhood wounds affect your relationship in this way: Imagine you grew up being uber controlled. Your parents had a say in everything. You weren’t even allowed to have friends, so much so that your best … [Read more]
Title: Personality Patterns in Couples Therapy: A Relational Framework for Understanding Personality DisordersLast updated: May 17, 2026 Audience and scope note This document is written for mental health clinicians, relationship therapists, and advanced trainees who … [Read more]