The advice arrives from every direction. A friend says it gently over coffee. A book says it with a chapter title. Sometimes a previous therapist said it, and sometimes it is just the voice in your own head at one in the morning: Maybe I expect too much. Maybe this is what marriage actually is, and wanting more is the problem.
It’s Not That You Fight. It’s What Happens Inside the Fight.
By the time a couple starts wondering whether the marriage is in real trouble, both partners are usually keeping a private tally. Two fights this week. Four last month. One of you counts them as … [Read more]
Most of What You’ve Been Told About Failing Marriages Is Wrong
By the time a marriage is in real trouble, both partners usually have a private theory about why. One of you has quietly concluded that the two of you are just too different. The other … [Read more]
What do Protest Behaviors in Relationships Look Like?
If your partner is upset at you and you react, you might be right. You’ve got every right to be upset. However, imagine you’ve got a child. They fall off their bicycle and they scream … [Read more]
How Childhood Wounds Affect Our Relationship with Our Partner
Childhood wounds affect your relationship in this way: Imagine you grew up being uber controlled. Your parents had a say in everything. You weren’t even allowed to have friends, so much so that your best … [Read more]