Every couple who arrives here is dealing with something different. Some are in active conflict that hasn’t responded to anything they’ve tried. Some have stopped fighting but also stopped being close. Some have a relationship that functions fine and feels like not enough. Some are not sure yet whether they want to repair it at all.
These programs address those situations specifically. The right one is the one that matches where you actually are.
Relationship Boot Camp
The fights keep coming back. Maybe they escalate faster than they should. Maybe one of you pursues and the other goes quiet, and neither of those things is working. You’ve tried to address it and the pattern is still running.
This is the program for conflict that hasn’t responded to good intentions.
Have the Conversation You Keep Not Getting Through
The relationship isn’t in crisis, but there are specific conversations you cannot get through. One of you raises something and the other hears it wrong. You explain yourself and they dig in harder. You end up further apart on a topic neither of you has actually managed to discuss yet.
This is the program for couples who know what needs to be said and can’t get there.
We’re Fine. That’s the Problem.
You’re not fighting. Nothing is visibly wrong. But the relationship has gone quiet in ways that are not working, and the usual attempts to fix it haven’t held. You share a home and a history and somewhere along the way stopped feeling like you were actually in a relationship.
This is the program for the distance that builds without anyone deciding it should.
Is This Still the Life You Want?
You’re not ready to commit to repair and not ready to walk away. You’ve been sitting with the same question long enough that thinking harder about it has stopped producing answers.
This is a separate track. The goal is not to save the relationship or to end it. It is to get clear.
Not Sure Where You Belong?
That is what the consultation is for. It is a working session where we identify which of these actually fits your situation and what next steps make sense. Most couples leave with more clarity than they arrived with, regardless of what they decide to do next.
Some couples work through more than one program over time. Most start with the one that matches where they are right now.
All programs are built on the Gottman Method, developed through five decades of research with more than 40,000 couples. David Lechnyr is a Certified Gottman Therapist #436, one of fewer than 500 worldwide, one of approximately 14 in Oregon and 12 in Arizona.