Strong relationships thrive on connection and understanding. Whether you’ve built years of shared experiences or are navigating important life transitions together, there’s always room to deepen your bond.

You’ve created something meaningful together. Now you might be looking to add new dimensions to your relationship, keep your spark alive, or strengthen the emotional intimacy you share. As a Certified Gottman Therapist with over 20 years of clinical experience, I specialize in helping couples enhance the unique partnership they’ve built together.

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The Four Horsemen: It’s Never Too Late to Fight Right

After many years together, you might think you’ve got this relationship thing figured out. You can predict each other’s responses, finish each other’s sentences, and probably even know exactly how your next argument will play out. But sometimes that predictability is part of the problem. What if those communication patterns you’ve developed over the years…

The No-Nonsense Guide to Improving Your Relationship: The 5:1 Ratio Unpacked

The secret to a long-lasting relationship is not just luck or chemistry. Research from Dr. John Gottman has identified a simple but powerful formula, grounded in rigorous scientific study. The essence is straightforward: for every negative interaction you have, aim for at least five positive ones. When you get this balance right, your relationship can…

Discernment Counseling: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Discernment Counseling can be particularly useful when working with couples who are on the brink of separation but are not completely certain that’s the path they want to take. It’s a way to respect the ambivalence and guide the couple to a more thoughtful decision. This approach helps couples to better understand their relationship dynamics,…

When ADHD Impacts Your Relationship: Understanding, Accepting, and Growing Together

Every relationship has its unique dynamics, but when undiagnosed ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder) is part of the equation, both partners may experience challenges and gifts they never expected. As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Gottman Therapist, I’ve worked with many couples navigating this journey together. While undiagnosed ADHD can contribute to relationship stress, it…

Toxic Relationship Recovery: Fear, Obligation, Guilt and Gaslighting

It can be overwhelming, exhausting, and disheartening to see the one you love keep your relationship at arms’ length through their words and actions. This type of Toxic Relationship is hard to see clearly when you’re in it. While your partner may agree that there’s a problem, their insight never seems to last. No matter…

At a Relationship Crossroads: Deciding Your Next Steps in Couples Therapy

You’re here because your relationship is at a turning point. Maybe you’re both feeling stuck, or one of you is considering calling it quits. Whatever brought you to this moment, you’re facing a big decision: Do you commit to working on your relationship, or do you need time to figure out if staying together is…

Your First Steps to Real Change

Let’s be clear about what happens when you make the decision to transform your relationship. This isn’t just another therapy session – this is a comprehensive assessment that gets to the real truth of what’s happening between you.

How to Prepare for Couples Therapy

If you’re serious about fixing your relationship, you’ve got to come prepared. That means understanding what’s really going on in your relationship, and understanding the language to use in order to describe what is, and isn’t, working. To help you with this, I recommend all new clients read what I consider to be be one of the best articles about the Gottman Method that I’ve seen. It breaks down why Gottman Method Couples Therapy works and why it’s essential for repairing relationships.

Cautions About the Gottman Method

First off, it’s important to remember that the Gottman Method is also a brand. Yes, it’s widely respected, and for good reason. But what happens if new research comes along and shifts the narrative? Do we just slap a “Gottman 2.0” label on it? It’s not about doubting the method – it’s about keeping an open mind and making sure to always ask questions.

Secondly, a lot of the Gottman Method is based on correlational research, not cause-and-effect (although they are getting closer to being more accurate on this). This means that while certain behaviors are common in happy couples, it doesn’t necessarily mean doing those things will automatically make you happy. This isn’t a knock against the Gottman Method – it’s just something to keep in mind with any approach you use.

The bottom line? These points don’t take away from how valuable the Gottman Method can be. But it’s crucial to use it thoughtfully, recognizing that every couple is unique. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to relationships.

Taking the Next Step

I’ve spent my career helping couples face the tough stuff and come out stronger. If you’re serious about making lasting changes, it’s time to take action. The key to transforming your relationship lies in your commitment to growth and understanding. It’s not just about talking things through – it’s about doing the work, day in and day out, to build a better connection with your partner.