coping mechanisms

Avoiding the Entire Truth: How Adult Children of Alcoholics Cope with Dishonesty

Dave Lechnyr, LCSW · Gottman Certified Therapist · Eugene, Oregon

Adult children of alcoholics often face a complex relationship with honesty, shaped by their experiences growing up in dysfunctional families. The coping mechanisms they develop in childhood, including lying and stretching the truth, can persist into adulthood, affecting their relationships and emotional well-being. Recognizing this struggle is the first step towards healing and developing healthier communication patterns.

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Impulsivity in Adult Children of Alcoholics: Understanding and Managing Impulsive Behaviors

Dave Lechnyr, LCSW · Gottman Certified Therapist · Eugene, Oregon

Adult children of alcoholics (ACOAs) often struggle with impulsivity, a tendency to act on sudden urges or desires without considering the potential consequences. This impulsive behavior can lead to a range of problems, from minor mishaps to more severe issues that require significant time and energy to resolve. Understanding the roots of impulsivity in ACOAs is crucial for developing effective strategies to manage these behaviors and foster personal growth.

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“Before therapy I thought I could change people with my love, affection, loyalty, etc. Not only did I think I *could* but I think I thought that it was somehow also my duty to do so. Then I learned about codependency and how it was not my responsibility to change people nor is it possible. I learned that people are who they are and, other than a respectful request, it's best to take people at face value and use boundaries. As a result, I no longer make as much space for people in my life who drain me and do not fill my cup.”

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