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Dave Lechnyr, LCSW · Gottman Certified Therapist · Eugene, Oregon
Abusers can be either male or a female. This article is therefore inclusive as the cycle of abuse is the same whether the abuser is a male or a female. These stages of the cycle of abuse are important to know about if you are going to manage your safety.
[Read more…] about How to Tell if You are a Victim of Verbal and Emotional Abuse“Before therapy I thought I could change people with my love, affection, loyalty, etc. Not only did I think I *could* but I think I thought that it was somehow also my duty to do so. Then I learned about codependency and how it was not my responsibility to change people nor is it possible. I learned that people are who they are and, other than a respectful request, it's best to take people at face value and use boundaries. As a result, I no longer make as much space for people in my life who drain me and do not fill my cup.”