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Extreme Loyalty in Adult Children of Alcoholics: Understanding the Fear and Insecurity

Dave Lechnyr, LCSW · Gottman Certified Therapist · Eugene, Oregon

Adult children of alcoholics (ACOAs) often exhibit extreme loyalty, even when faced with evidence that their loyalty is undeserved. This unwavering commitment to others, particularly to their alcoholic parent or dysfunctional family members, is rooted in fear and insecurity. ACOAs may believe that by being exceptionally loyal, they can earn the love and approval they desperately seek, hoping to change their loved ones for the better.

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