For couples trapped in destructive patterns and individuals recovering from difficult relationships. Stop the endless cycle. Rebuild what matters. Create lasting transformation.
If These Thoughts Sound Familiar, You’ve Found the Right Place:
- “We keep having the same argument over and over.”
- “I feel like we’re roommates, not partners.”
- “I keep choosing people who hurt me.”
- “We love each other, but we don’t know how to fix this.”
- “I’m tired of therapy that goes nowhere.”
The fact that you’re here means you’re ready for something different. You don’t want more insight without change. You don’t want endless processing. You want your relationship life to actually work.
Why Most Relationship Therapy Fails (And What Actually Works Instead)
You may have tried couples counseling or individual therapy before, only to find yourself sliding back into the same painful patterns. That’s because traditional therapy often involves:
- Endless talking without resolution
- Vague insights that don’t translate to real life
- Walking away feeling worse than when you arrived
- No clear structure or accountability
Here’s what actually works instead: A research-backed, structured approach that gives you concrete tools to break destructive cycles once and for all.
As the only Certified Gottman Therapist in Eugene, Oregon and one of the few in the Pacific Northwest, I specialize in helping motivated couples and individuals transform relationship chaos into genuine connection.
I’ve had a lot of therapists over the last 17 years and I’ve never had a counselor bring me through this much progress…. ever. Not even close.”
; Client testimonial
Three Paths Forward ; All Lead to Better Relationships:
Path 1: We Want to Fix This Together
Couples Therapy Using the Gottman Method
When you’re both ready to break the cycle of destructive communication, rebuild trust, and create the partnership you actually want. Research-backed tools that work when you’re too emotional to think clearly.
Path 2: We’re Not Sure if We Should Stay Together
Discernment Counseling for Mixed-Agenda Couples
When one of you is leaning in while the other is leaning out. Get clarity and confidence about your relationship’s future before making life-changing decisions. Designed for couples where commitment levels don’t match.
Path 3: I Need to Work on This Myself First
Individual Therapy for Relationship Patterns
When you need to break your own patterns before you can build healthy relationships. Stop repeating the same relationship mistakes and start choosing partners who actually treat you well.
This Approach Works for People Who:
- Are genuinely motivated to create change (not just complain about problems)
- Recognize their own role in difficult patterns
- Want concrete tools and skills, not just insight
- Are willing to practice new approaches between sessions
- Can handle direct feedback in service of real growth
- Still believe their relationship situation can improve
This Approach Isn’t Right if You:
- Want quick fixes without personal effort
- Aren’t ready to examine your own contributions
- Prefer endless processing over structured change
- Expect therapy to work without implementing new skills
About Dave Lechnyr, LCSW
I come from a multi-generational family of therapists, so this work has been part of my life for decades. As a Certified Gottman Therapist serving Eugene, Oregon, I combine research-backed methods with practical tools that actually work when emotions run high.
My approach is straightforward: Help you identify the patterns keeping you stuck, challenge you gently but clearly to try something different, and give you the skills to create relationships you’re proud of.
I see clients both in-person at my office in Eugene, Oregon as well as provide secure video sessions for clients throughout Oregon and Arizona. For individuals and couples in other states seeking relationship guidance without clinical therapy, I offer the same research-backed approach, with a specific focus on skill-building and pattern recognition.
Ready to Stop Repeating the Same Patterns?
The fact that you’ve read this far tells me you’re serious about change. If you’re ready for therapy that actually creates results, not just insight, let’s talk.
Dave Lechnyr provides both licensed therapy services (for Oregon and Arizona residents) and life coaching services (for clients outside these states). Our intake process will connect you with the appropriate service for your location and needs.