Our culture makes such a fuss about “love and marriage” that we find ourselves “losing perspective” about the reality of what is required to make a good relationship. However, marriages (and committed relationships) are ending more frequently these days because “once the love glow comes off” the realities of life are now seen.
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What the Gottmans Want New Parents to Understand About Having a Baby
When you’re expecting a baby, it’s a beautiful time, but it can also be a real strain on your relationship if you’re not prepared. The Gottmans have laid out several critical concepts in their book “And Baby Makes Three” that can help keep your relationship strong during this transition.
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As a couple, you may wonder what the secret is to a happy, long-lasting relationship. While there are many factors that contribute to a strong partnership, the Gottman method, a well-respected approach to couples therapy, has identified one critical behavior that successful couples never engage in.
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Have you ever wondered how accurately Dr. John Gottman can predict divorce? Is there any truth behind this claim? Well, buckle up – the answer might blow your mind!
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If you’re wondering if you can do Gottman therapy online, the answer is a resounding YES! In today’s digital age, virtual couples counseling is not only possible but also incredibly effective. So, if you and your partner are ready to strengthen your bond, keep reading to discover how online Gottman therapy can work for you.
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Researchers have identified specific patterns that put the relationship at risk of ending. Ask yourself where you would rate yourself and your partner. See if you can change your response style to improve things.
[Read more…] about Relationship Red Flags and Warning SignsUnderstanding Relationship Health: A Guide to Strengthening Your Bond
In every relationship, navigating the journey of togetherness involves understanding and managing various emotional and practical aspects that contribute to what we call relationship health. As a Certified Gottman Therapist, I’ve witnessed first-hand how identifying and addressing specific areas within a relationship can lead to profound improvements in how couples connect, communicate, and commit to each other. Let’s delve into some key areas that are vital to strengthening your bond.
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The secret to a long-lasting relationship is not just luck or chemistry. Research from Dr. John Gottman has identified a simple but powerful formula, grounded in rigorous scientific study. The essence is straightforward: for every negative interaction you have, aim for at least five positive ones. When you get this balance right, your relationship can thrive.
[Read more…] about The No-Nonsense Guide to Improving Your Relationship: The 5:1 Ratio UnpackedUnderstanding Emotional and Verbal Abuse: How Therapy Can Help You Heal
Emotional and verbal abuse is a topic that doesn’t get nearly the attention it deserves. Unlike physical abuse, the scars aren’t easily seen, but they cut deep. Many people don’t even realize they’re caught in an abusive cycle until it’s caused significant emotional damage. This form of abuse thrives in secrecy and ambiguity, making it difficult to understand and confront. But don’t worry, we’re going to demystify it for you, explain why it’s so problematic, and, most importantly, show you the role therapy can play in healing.
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I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen couples stroll into my office, thinking a few tips and tricks are going to fix years of relationship decay. It’s like putting a bandaid on a bullet wound and expecting to walk it off. Spoiler alert: you can’t. That’s because genuine transformation is way different from merely having information. I’ve seen people miss this crucial point over and over, often when it’s far too late to reverse course.
So, if you’re really invested in turning your relationship around, here’s what you need to be doing:
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In 1944, the ClA wrote a handbook on how to sabotage an company’s productivity. This secret (now declassified) pamphlet was called “The Simple Sabotage Field Manual” and has several surprising similarities to how couples unsuccessfully communicate.
[Read more…] about How to Effectively Sabotage Your RelationshipEnhancing Closeness thru Vulnerability
Research has revealed that a very powerful predictor of relationship stability is whether couples spend time getting to know each other or not. One way to do this is to ask open-ended questions. An open-ended question is a question that can’t be answered by a simple “yes” or “no.” It is a question such as, “How would you like our life to change in the next five years?”
The ultimate goal is to change the way the two of you “move through time” together.
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Learn how to recognize and counteract the harmful communication patterns that are common in failed relationships.
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Conflict is inevitable, combat is optional.
The truth is that conflict happens in every relationship. It’s a myth that in a happy relationship you’ll get along all the time. What matters is how you talk about issues more than what you fight about.
[Read more…] about How to Remove Conflict From Your RelationshipMistakes When Rebuilding Trust
We all want to regain our trust in others. Sometimes, in our urgency to get rid of our uncomfortable feelings, we fall into a few mistakes that actually make things worse. Knowing about the key mistakes that are made when we work on rebuilding trust will save us unnecessary time and further disappointment.
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