Most couples know what makes them feel criticized or dismissed by their partner. You can probably rattle off a list without even thinking about it. But here’s what’s interesting: When I ask couples to tell … [Read more]
What the research reveals about the 94% of couples who make it.
If you’ve read John Gottman’s books or researched couples therapy, you’ve likely encountered both the Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and the Sound Relationship House theory, and wondered whether they’re the same thing, different approaches, or one superseding the other. David Lechnyr, LCSW, a Certified Gottman Therapist in Oregon and Arizona, explains how these two frameworks relate to each other, which one applies to clinical practice versus self-help reading, and why understanding the distinction matters for couples doing the work.
Bottom Line: As one of the few Certified Gottman Therapists with Beck Institute CBT training serving Oregon and Arizona, I help couples break destructive communication cycles and rebuild connection. By combining Gottman’s research-backed methods with … [Read more]
The term ‘red flags’ has become so overused that it now covers everything from serious abuse patterns to minor personality quirks. That dilution matters because the flags that actually predict long-term relationship failure are often subtler than the ones people talk about online. This article cuts through the noise and explains which relationship warning signs the research actually links to failure, why the less obvious ones are often more predictive than the dramatic ones, and what distinguishes a fixable problem from a fundamental incompatibility.