What Is Accepting Influence in Relationships? Accepting influence means finding common ground with your partner and saying yes to their ideas, even when you only agree with part of what they’re saying. The Gottman Institute’s …
Three hours. That’s how long Sarah found herself trapped in the same argument with her husband on a Tuesday night. She’d launched into explaining her frustration about their weekend plans, and somehow they’d spiraled into …
Most couples know what makes them feel criticized or dismissed by their partner. You can probably rattle off a list without even thinking about it. But here’s what’s interesting: When I ask couples to tell …
What the research reveals about the 94% of couples who make it.
If you’ve read John Gottman’s books or researched couples therapy, you’ve likely encountered both the Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and the Sound Relationship House theory, and wondered whether they’re the same thing, different approaches, or one superseding the other. David Lechnyr, LCSW, a Certified Gottman Therapist in Oregon and Arizona, explains how these two frameworks relate to each other, which one applies to clinical practice versus self-help reading, and why understanding the distinction matters for couples doing the work.