Why Do I Keep Choosing the Wrong Person?

Person sitting alone on a park bench in autumn light, reflecting on a pattern of repeated relationship choices

You ended the last relationship convinced this time would be different. Then you found yourself in the same dynamic again, with someone new. That pattern has a psychological explanation that has nothing to do with weakness or poor judgment. Drawing on Gottman Method research, this article explains why the brain is wired to seek the familiar, why familiar and healthy are not the same thing, and what breaking the cycle actually requires.

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