Signs of Infidelity in Marriage: What Therapists Actually Look For

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Have you ever had a gut feeling that something in your marriage was amiss, but it would take some time for all to sink in right? Well, intuition has always been our best friend. In these days when the internet is rife with all sorts of dating services and adulterous spouses roam about looking to strike down marriages in order to supplement their home life with another partner, if we have doubts about our partner’s fidelity then we should pay attention, because infidelity can destroy a relationship.

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How Can I Trust Again After an Affair? A Gottman Therapist Explains

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Infidelity can shatter the foundation of a relationship, leaving both partners struggling to find a path forward. This comprehensive guide offers a straightforward approach to understanding the impact of affairs and rebuilding trust, drawing on principles from the Gottman Method and other evidence-based practices in couples therapy.

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Why Affairs Happen: The Psychology of Infidelity and What It Actually Means

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Affairs are rarely what they appear to be on the surface. The other person, the attraction, the opportunity: these are almost never the real explanation. What looks like a choice is usually the end point of a long process the couple was not paying attention to. This article draws on decades of Gottman Institute research and clinical work to explain what actually drives affairs, what needs they are attempting to meet, and what an affair usually signals about the state of the relationship long before it happened.

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