TherapyDave
Gottman Certified Therapist in Eugene, Oregon
Because we assume that other people think like we do, we are at risk of missing some critical warning signs. Sadly, these days it’s important not give others the benefit of the doubt unless they have earned it. You need be able to identify the “Red Flags” and “Yellow Flags” of those who lie, cheat, and steal, and worse, without regard for anyone else, as well as the “tactics,” behaviors, or strategies that others may use to “get to you,” hurt you and take what is yours.
Have you ever had a gut feeling that something in your marriage was amiss, but it would take some time for all to sink in right? Well, intuition has always been our best friend. In these days when the internet is rife with all sorts of dating services and adulterous spouses roam about looking to strike down marriages in order to supplement their home life with another partner, if we have doubts about our partner’s fidelity then we should pay attention, because infidelity can destroy a relationship.
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