So you’ve finally got your ADHD medication sorted out. Maybe you’re thinking “Great! Everything should be perfect now, right?” But then you still can’t find your keys, or you’re late to appointments, or your brain … [Read more]
If your goal is to be happy, it’s useful to know how far you’ve come.
As the old saying goes, if you don’t know where you’re going, you’ll probably end up somewhere else. With happiness, it’s important to know what your current level of happiness is so that you can measure how effective therapy is over time.
Assertiveness and boundaries are two of the most recommended concepts in self-help culture and two of the least clearly defined. The result is that people are told to ‘set boundaries’ without a clear explanation of what a boundary actually is, or told to ‘be more assertive’ without understanding the difference between assertiveness and aggression. This article provides a clinically grounded explanation of what both concepts mean, why they are so difficult for people raised in certain family environments, and what developing them in adult relationships actually requires.
If you’re feeling like your life is spinning out of control, it’s time to take charge. But not in the way you think. In fact, before you actually make any changes, you need to begin with being brutally honest with yourself. I don’t mean paying attention to all of the lies you tell yourself about your self-worth or your limitations. Instead, you have to know what you’re feeling, without spinning out of control in a panic. Trust me – this will feel worse before it gets better. But in the end, you’ll gain the critical skill of self-awareness that will ultimately change everything in your entire approach to life.
Everyone always hears that advice that talking about problems can help. However, most people really believe that it might be best to say as little as possible about most things. As a result, coming to see a psychologist to “talk about issues” is something that many people resist doing until they absolutely have to. Understanding a few issues can help with this important task.